Thursday, July 7, 2011

Losing a loved one, prematurely.

Heavy title, huh?! Phew! I know! I have met many people who have prematurely lost a loved one. A dear friend lost her father, the guy I see in the mirror lost her mother, etc, etc. Losing someone you love is never easy, more so, when the person dies prematurely.

Define prematurely, a skeptic might ask. Well, that skeptic will most definitely be a person who has gotten hit, and gotten hit very hard on many occasions in life, I can assure you of that. As someone who can get into analysisng such kind of scenarios is, by popular vote, either a heartless bastard, or a mad imbecile.

I fall into the later category, and I HAVE gotten hit very hard in life, on many occasions. As this article is not titled "Biography of Kartik" ( which NOONE would ever read anyway!), I will abstain from going there.

Coming to the point, I do have a definition of premature death. Someone you love AND need dying before your need for it hasn't been eclipsed by something or someone else you need more.

Dying has always been a sensitive topic for me. I lost my mum and probably a friend who understood me most in the same year. While mums have the privilege of holding their new born in their arms, I have had the misfortune of holding my mum  in my arms while her life escaped her. Believe me, that's not an easy thought to get out of one's head. Losing a friend on top of that, and in the same year kinda de-sensitised me towards death and the hype surrounding.

EVERYBODY dies. No? And life does not stop. For anyone. It may be your father, your sister, or the Prime Minister. Or maybe, your favorite star even. Death happens. And life goes on.
A dear, sweetheart of a colleague lost a love bird, and she was devastated. While I tried to console her and tell her that this was inevitable, I found my eyes welling up.  I could feel her pain, and the pain of losing loved ones came gushing back. It scared me to commit to anything, lest I feel tha magnitude of pain again. But I realised, and quite quickly, that I am the man, or the person I am not because of the easyships, I faced, but because of the hardships I faced and conquered. Guess that;s life, eh?!

As some uber wise soul said, life is not fair. But then, it's not fair for everyone. That kinda makes it fair, right?

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